By now everyone should have a pretty good idea of how my mind operates. It's hard for me to recognize kindness. Whether I'm giving or receiving. I think of the motive. My definition of kindness is something one does to achieve self-satisfaction.
Most acts of kindness are triggered by feelings of guilt, remorse, grief, and love. The 'Save the Children' TV ads are one example. The ask, no they beg for money while showing horrific pictures of children starving, diseased, and dying. These TV ads are designed to stir feelings of guilt, sympathy, and pity. Feelings of guilt because of what you have. You can't help feeling sympathetic after seeing the suffering children. Finally, you take pity on them and give money. This isn't kindness. You were manipulated!
Christmas is supposed to be a celebration. A day of joy, peace, and kindness. How many people go into debt each year buying gifts? Christmas has turned into the day we feel obligated to give something to our children, family, and friends. Why? Because it is expected! Imagine the anger and disappointment your family would feel if they received nothing at all. The days of old are gone. Today, Christmas is all about the gifts and how many we received.
Kindness should be an act most often done because of who we are and not the circumstances.
The first paragraph sort of took me off guard, I was ready with some big awesome come back but then as I read on I realized exactly what you were saying and the only response that came to mind was "well said".
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